GRUDGE SONG OF THE WEEK

The grudge content of songs is high. Let’s have a look at some of the best grudge songs out there, and see what conclusions we can draw about the grudges that have provided such inspiration…

 

WEEK 5  —  God May Forgive You (But I Won’t) – Iris Dement

THE LYRICS

 

God May Forgive You (But I Won’t) — Iris DeMent:

 
You say that you’re born again,
Cleansed of your former sins
You want me to say, “I forgive and forget,”
But you’ve done too much to me.
Don’t you be touching me.
Go back and touch all those women you’ve met.

God may forgive you, but I won’t.
Yes, Jesus loves you, but I don’t.
They don’t have to live with you and neither do I.
You say that you’re born again — well, so am I.
God may forgive you, but I won’t,
And I won’t even try.

The kids used to cry for you.
I had to try to do
Things that a Dad should do
Since you’ve been gone.
You really let us down.
You may be heaven-bound,
But you’ve left one hell of a mess here at home.

God may forgive you, but I won’t.
Yes, Jesus loves you, but I don’t.
They don’t have to live with you and neither do I.
You say that you’re born again — well, so am I.
God may forgive you, but I won’t
And I won’t even try.

SOPHIE’S  TAKE

 
One of my favourite grudge songs of all time, by a legendary singer/songwriter whom you might not have heard of. All her music is brilliant, but this is my favourite for obvious grudgey reasons.

I’ve had indirect personal experience of someone using a sudden getting-of-devout-religion as evidence that they’re a changed person who deserves to be forgiven. The person who could have offered or withheld the forgiveness in this instance found that he was unable to forgive because he couldn’t believe in the contrition or the sudden belief in God.

I also love the ‘…and I won’t even try’ in the chorus here, in relation to forgiveness. Often we try to force our negative emotions to move aside more quickly than they’re ready to, which only serves to strengthen them. We shouldn’t try to forgive if we’re not ready. Forgiveness is something that will come in its own time — and, counterintuitively, it comes more quickly and more readily as soon as we give ourselves official permission not to forgive if we don’t feel like it.

OTHER GRUDGE GOODIES

“Hopefully once you’ve read this book, you will  understand that grudges can and should be great, and you’ll be inspired to pass on the gift of grudge-holding to the next generation. Sending yourself and your loved ones out into the world with a strong grudge-growing ability is as essential as putting on a helmet and not drinking four bottles of vodka before getting onto your motorbike and zooming off down the motorway. Trust me: it’s true