Episode 1: Grudges Can be Great

In this first episode, I explain what made me – a crime writer and poet – decide I had to write a self-help book on the subject of grudges. I talk about why I’m firmly convinced that our grudges can and should be good for us. I explain how, precisely, we can benefit from our grudges, and I’m joined by special guests psychotherapist Dr Helen Acton and mentor, coach, meditation teacher and therapist Anne Grey, to discuss grudges in all their glory.

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“A grudge is, and should be, something lasting but not necessarily obtrusive or constant, and definitely not something rage-inducing, debilitating or harmful. Most of my grudges were things I thought about very rarely. (Obviously this changed when I started planning to write this book!) Some I enjoyed and found quite hilarious — I pulled them out of my  grudge cabinet every so often and admired them. ‘What a fine specimen!’ I thought to myself.